Of course, as a gentleman I always want the woman to come first, usually 2 or 3 times before I will. You are absolutley correct about the milkiness of the natural lubricant, until that is running well don't even dare to thrust. Maybe enter a little at first if that is what she wants, but only if that is the case.

Use the tongue and fingers to get her juices flowing, lots of foreplay, work on the nerve endings, the fine hair on her arms and body, nip her responsive areas lightly, suck at her clitoris while testing how moist she is with your fingers, once loosened up enough, look for her 'g' spot and do the 'come hither' thing and when she lifts her pelvic muscles and butt towards you then enter.

Only then would I seek to build myself up to come, but always after her or together even better. To reach that crescendo simultaneously makes for better relaxing chats afterwards, in the shower.