It's the cult of the bully. It's like the good 'ole schooldays to many. They had to put up with it & it hasn't hurt them, it made them strong enough to survive. Haven't we all had the p taken out of us at some stage in life, for our looks, our differences to the mainstream?
When people have said to me things about how they can't say anything now, it's usually some racist remark that they found amusing. I just answer that if it offends the recipient then don't do it, it's not just "banter."
Toxic masculinity, bullying, or reactionaries to change are why the right call out what they now call "woke." They see it as all Political Correctness gone mad. Fuck them.