I understand that. An old GF of mine used to get me to write erotic thoughts to her for a week or so before we could meet up. We were in different countries but the build up of the expectations was really in place of the foreplay, lots of sexting helped, then emailed scenarios. By the time we met we'd just be explosive for the first half hour. Then we'd slow down, sleep a little, have dinner, do the wine, dine thing before going at it all night again.