I blame the Anglo-prudery that is indoctrinated in us from a young age, all that churchy stuff of the old imperialists, forcing their religions onto other cultures.

I've said on Medium before that my Malaysian friend pulled me to one side when I first went to Asia and told me that out there sex was a body function it didn't have to be complicated by the emotions of 'love.' All that prim & proper stuff that still goes on now I'm back in England.

As a male with my own business throughout S.E.Asia and living in Thailand, I probably tripled your number in a year. Most of those were women who propositioned me. It seems the numbers of women out there work the opposite way to here. These were often serious business women, late 30's to 50's even. I rarely did the bimbo bar girl thing going with the very young like so many westerners.

There were no hang-ups, it was all good fun and they would mostly move on without wanting more. Some I am still in touch with today as great friends and I am sure that we would get it on if we met up again.

My thoughts on your year are exactly the same. It is nobody's business but your own and when I argue that position with my UK friends they stare at me as if I'm the slut, while they are stuck with a conventional wife relationship that keeps them poor and miserable. Enjoy your life Sarah and live it on your terms. Don't worry about those stupid western men.