Hi Christine, I think you are really a guy. You must play the male role in your rituals. I mean I don't do any of those things and most of the women I've been with like those women things. I've been with a few ladyboys so maybe also can claim partly to be bi, so maybe that's my feminine side coming out. I know that some of my pals do those 3 things, but the only one I have done is fall asleep, but that was after a real long session and after my nerve endings have stopped twitching.
Like you said it is only from your personal angle. Me too, we are all different and that is why we keep trying out new partners.
Take care and enjoy all your escapades,
Brian xx